My husband says that he is too tired for sex

Dear Pastor,

I want to tell you my problems. I am 23 years old and I am married to a man who is 40 and drives a trailer.

We have been friends since I was 19. He used to help me a lot. I don't know my father and my mother has six of us. This man gave me money to go to school and he paid for my subjects. Then I became a Christian and got baptised. I was never the run-around type, so this man and I agreed that we should get married. We got married in the pastor's office. He bought me a beautiful ring, and I promised him that I would buy him one in the future.

Before we got married and started living together, we used to have sex often. I couldn't keep my panties on for this man. Whenever I touch him now, he says that he is very tired. I am wondering if he is seeing another woman. I said that to him, but whenever I do, he gets angry. But sometimes I want to have sex and I have to do without it until he is ready. We do not have children. Whenever he is ready to have sex, he is in a hurry because he has to leave early in the morning to go to work. This is the only problem I am having with him.

I would like to become pregnant. He has three children with two different women. He takes care of his children, and the mothers don't harass me. I know he is not with any of them, but please tell me what to do.

Y.R.

Dear Y.R.,

Please go easy on your husband. He is in his 40s and he drives a trailer. That, I am sure, is hard work and you should believe him when he says that he is tired.

It does not appear as if your husband is ignoring you. When he comes home from work, allow him to sleep, and then coax him into having sex with you. I am also sure that he gets days off; so whenever he does, let it be a day of lovemaking and romance.

You have a good husband. He takes care of you financially. Try and get yourself an education. Don't be in a hurry to get pregnant. It is not wise for you to be suggesting to your husband that he has another woman.

Pastor